In my last entry I made mention of the fact that there is a web service that exists where women who want breast enhancement surgery can go and sell themselves out online for the entertainment of others in an attempt to raise money for the procedure. The story that I linked to is about a woman named Karla-Rae Morris, a 26-year old mother and wife from Fort McMurray, who has spent the last three years attempting to raise the money. She had some rather, shall we say, ‘interesting’ things to say about the experience…
“Although she admitted she sent out some “naughty” pics and video – which she regrets to this day – Morris insisted most of the men she encountered seemed to be more interested in making a personal connection and helping her out than just getting some racy images.”
First, where in the hell is this woman’s husband in all of this? What man with any dignity whatsoever would allow their wife to send complete strangers erotic video and images in the pursuit of getting breast implants paid for? Probably one that is more excited about the fact that he’ll get to fondle those fake tits rather than actually confronting the fact that his wife is willing to degrade herself to get them, not to mention the fact that any man worth his salt would never allow other men to flip the bill for something of that nature.
It is, in a word, classless.
And what of the kids? Man, won’t they just love it when they grow up and realize their mother degraded herself for breast implants. That’s just a fantastic demonstration of ethical instillation.
It doesn’t end there, of course. It gets even better…
“It’s like donating to any charity. You feel like you’re doing good,” Morris said of her benefactors. “When you’re donating to starving kids in Africa, you’re never going to see those kids eat and you’re never going to meet. Obviously, this is not as important as helping starving kids in Africa, but it’s the same basis. They (the men) want to help us out.”
No, Mrs. Morris, is it not as important as feeding those that need to be fed, or housed for that matter – even in Fort McMurray, let alone Africa.
In Africa, by the way, a child dies of the measles every minute. That’s more than those taken by HIV, TB, and malaria. And do you know what it would cost to prevent that? A dollar a child.
Putting that in the context of fake tits, that’s the lives of 8,000 children that you might never see, but would be alive if those that donated to the cause of enlarging your breasts weren’t complete morons.
Maybe something closer to home might make more sense, especially given the fact that you’re a mother…
“Booming oil production centre, Fort McMurray, AB, has uncovered another important social problem–homeless kids, ages 11-17. While the city has shelters for the homeless and abused adults, it has no facility for minors.”
Well, at the very least, you can wear revealing tops and give the males among them a little thrill when you’re walking down the street.
Am I being harsh? The truth is that Morris isn’t wholly responsible. Those that funded her are just as suspect. But it also shouldn’t be overlooked that without participating on that website, and without sending photos and videos, she probably wouldn’t have raised the money either.
The crux of this is, in truth, extremely low self esteem, which is ultimately not a problem that can be solved with fake breasts. They might deflect the problem for a while, but it will eventually creep back into her life and become just as prevalent as it ever was.
We can all run, but hiding isn’t an option. In the end it’ll get you unless you have the guts to call it what it is and face it – with dignity.
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Any person who would even think to compare donations towards “starving kids in Africa” and donations towards breast implants is nothing more than a fine example of the ignorant, self absorbed layer of scum that is afflicting society.
Mrs. Morris and everything she represents makes my head hurt.
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I’m kinda puzzled by this one….
I imagine the ‘problem’ will resurface the moment she [and husband] realise that fake breasts look and feel completely fake. As in, not remotely nice to look at or to touch. Or to have inside your skin.
She will then have to accept that she’s bounced up $8,000 to mutilate herself.
WIN. Uhm.. shit…..
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it’s the world we live in
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This world is f’ed. It’s all backwards…
I cannot believe that she even went so far as to compare giving donations for breast implants to giving donations to a worthy charity! Rather twisted and I’d say in this case very selfish!
“The crux of this is, in truth, extremely low self esteem, which is ultimately not a problem that can be solved with fake breasts.”
It’s absolutely true. They say “if only my breasts were bigger… “, but eventually there will be a need for something else. What they need to do it learn to love themselves. Easier said then done of course, but certainly achievable… and in this case cost effective.
“We can all run, but hiding isn’t an option. In the end it’ll get you unless you have the guts to call it what it is and face it – with dignity.”
Love your way with words.
Great point.
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33.3years.400bottles of whisky.=8000kids.
which is the greater sin?we all have our reasons.
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They’re everywhere. This one even got a book deal.
http://www.savekaryn.com/
It really bothers me that the homeless and disadvantaged get called irresponsible, lazy, and greedy, while people like this have all their white suburban dreams fulfilled for nothing at all.
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Amen. Top to bottom.
“The crux of this is, in truth, extremely low self esteem, which is ultimately not a problem that can be solved with fake breasts. They might deflect the problem for a while, but it will eventually creep back into her life and become just as prevalent as it ever was.”
I think this is an absolutely dead-on statement. I wish someone would do a documentary and talk to women who’ve had implants, a couple years down the road. You know, have them give their perspective once that instant response of “oh my god I’ve got big boobs!” has worn off. I think it would be an interesting project.
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Quoting o:
That’s not the point. The point is, would you go on a website and basically debase yourself for free whiskey? And if you would, what would that say about you? If she earned the money and got it done, I’m not making this entry.
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Why can’t there be some breast donating website for ‘rea’l stuff?
I have alot up there I want out of me.
Damn!!!
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some reasons are better than others though.arent they?
one chocolate bar=one child?
nop.not better.hmm.
is there any better way to spend a dollar?
is there any reason good enough to spend it on something else?
ignorance=suffering
if the choice was right infront of me,of course id give the dollar for the child.
not put it in my pocket for the next bottle.
but; loin de la vue, loin du coeur.
shamefull.
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Quoting o:
You are completely taking this out of context. The point isn’t that she wants fake breasts, the point is how she went about it and all that that entailed and what it says about her, society in general, and so forth. My comments regarding Africa were in response to her comments, not an attack on mankind in general.
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i wrote my 2nd comment before i read yours btw.
yeah.i understand your point.
got me thinking of my own demons.
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Gotcha.
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It’s abit crazy how she did it, but my real question will always remain: how desperate are we by having ourselves cut open? I wish woman would just love what they have or don’t have and respect themselves. If you marry a boob man, you’re goona get fake ones if you’re small. Find out first is he’s fine with the way you look.. If he changes his mind after saying he’s fine about it, then he’s an ass.
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maestro?
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Many people can be bought in many different ways. It’s funny how often it’s men doing the buying and women doing the selling. If she earns the money with the breasts, is the next step ok? How much self esteem does a man who takes advantage of a women have? I wonder if any guys offered a donation not to do the surgery.
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this is what i read into this, this woman doesnt even realize how “shocking” her comparison to starving children in africa was.. she doesnt, she’s basically living in la la land, she most liikely has self esteem issues, no doubt in my mind, it clearly was so important to her to have breast implants that she would resort to anything, and i dont think its that far fethced to believe some people feel so hopeless when it comes to thier self esteem, and she pretty much did resort to anything, and in her world she’s content, no one did harm and her “benefactors” feel noble for what what they’ve done.
Her crime here is stupidity, because she made an appalling comment that donating to her breasts was as worthy if not more then donating to starving children in Africa.
The men that donated to her “cause” are made out to look worse because she inadvertedly accused them of donating to her breasts OVER donating to children in africa, and although that choice is always there, I wouldnt go out and say they made one decision over another,
perhaps these men donate to other “causes” as well, perhaps they dont…
also judging on the way she speaks , she probably doesnt know one dollar per child can save them from dying from measles… or how much cheaper it is to save a life then to buy fake breasts…
shes a product of what shes been brought up on and the fact that websiteS (yes ive heard of many that women go on to raise money for breast implants) like this exist, goes to show the demand thats out there for people filling, more likely than not, empty holes…i dont wanna totally chastise this woman, however we do have to take responsability for our own actions and words, the problem lies in so many things, the purtrayors of such websites, the lack of self esteem, the lack of knowledge of more worthy causes(among other things), and in some cases the lack of morals ( by the sellers and the buyers)
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Quoting T-Lee:
If you marry him, he shouldn’t be a “boob man” or a “butt man” or whatever. He should be a “you man.” Which is not to say he doesn’t enjoy looking at one type of part or another… but he should absolutely love the way you look, regardless of what your build is. You don’t love a person in spite of their body. You love a person, including their body.
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There is so much wrong with this, I don’t even know where to begin. The whole thing, from the overall concept of the site to this particular woman’s quotes, just makes me overwhelmingly sad– sad at the level of ignorance out there, sad at what women are willing to do to themselves to be “perfect”, sad at what men encourage them to do, sad at our collective skewed priorities… and sad that, even acknowledging all this, I spend an inordinate amount of time bemoaning my own lack of porn-star tits. Jesus.
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Quoting T-Lee:
Exactly.
Just yesterday I was talking about society’s obsession with body image and plastic surgery in particular. People are literally carving themselves into pieces, poisoning their bodies, and destroying their essential architecture all in a desperate attempt to conform to some false ideal. And how boring, how exhausting this world would be if we all looked, acted and thought the same way.
It’s simply sad the lengths that people will go to demolish themselves in a vain and insincere attempt to belong. The way I see it, if someone is going to judge me by my boobs, my nose, my legs, etc than they are the one who is losing out in that interaction. They are the one who is being cheated out of the true and pure connection that is possible between two human beings. It is a person’s actions, words and character that should be forced into the spotlight of exposure, not their cup size.
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Quoting revisited:
Holy crap… say the perfect thing much?
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“It’s like donating to any charity. You feel like you’re doing good,” Morris said of her benefactors. “When you’re donating to starving kids in Africa, you’re never going to see those kids eat and you’re never going to meet. Obviously, this is not as important as helping starving kids in Africa, but it’s the same basis. They (the men) want to help us out.”
What Logic! Let me get this straight…
Potentially imparting financial assistance to a starving child in a third-world nation is futile in that you will likely never be able to behold the effect of your gift, but potentially imparting financial assistance to some idiotic flat chested bitch is a gift in of itself because you will get to see first hand (”pictures and videos”) how your money has gone to help said bitch mutilate herself by getting sacs of a synthetic plastic substance embedded into her chest cavity.
Nice. I think I am going to start my own “charity” website “Sterilize an Idiot” on which generous benefactors can donate to ensure that capacity to reproduce has been eliminated in people such as the aforementioned Ms. Morris (I shudder to think that such morons are procreating for the propagation of our species).
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“We can all run, but hiding isn’t an option. In the end it’ll get you unless you have the guts to call it what it is and face it – with dignity.”
repent or eventually regret will eat you up?
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“Apple bottom jeans, boots with the fir, the whole club looking at her… She hit the floor next thing you know shorty got low low low low low”
I heard this junk while I was out today… *sigh* Matty’s allusion to the state of society in general got me thinking, another bourbon please… wait make that two.
I dunno maybe we’re not shot to hell after all, we can look forward this time to “Air Powered Cars,” which is a bit deceptive because they will maintain our reliance at some level on gasoline.
http://www.popularmechanics.com/automotive/new_cars/4251491.html
Perhaps my brother said it best in a recent post:
“The question is not when will we finally know enough to do something about what’s happening, but rather when will we act on what we already know?”
How much longer are we willing to delay?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/General_Motors_EV1
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“Booming oil production centre, Fort McMurray, AB, has uncovered another important social problem–homeless kids, ages 11-17. While the city has shelters for the homeless and abused adults, it has no facility for minors.”
Not the fort McMurray I grew up in. having spent my entire child hood there and then moving away as an adult; I find it disheartening to see a place which once was in fact the end of the road with a tonne of stuff for kids to do with a sense of community that has now been lost. All for the production of oil.
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Quoting revisited:
Holy crap, say the perfect thing much? (sorry K-e-t, it had to be repeated).
Wow… very nice, very nice.
Mountains are beautiful though, remember revisited..
Hubby wasn’t complaining when I was 9 months prego….. it’s just a thang….
But small or big, they should just be loved and respected.
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Excellent post! This woman is in serious denial if she thinks that getting a boob job is comparable to “helping out” starving children in Africa. I doubt she regrets her “naughty” pics and videos she had to do in order to get her benefactors to donate for her cause, and I highly doubt that she really believes these men are really there to help her out, silly girl! I never did understand why women think getting a boob job is somehow going to make themselves feel better. I could understand it if they had “banana titties” or a mastectomy or traumatic injury and needed them in that cosmetic way, but just for the size of it? or any other reason? grow a self esteem! I have no respect for this woman or that website that encourages women to join.
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I could understand asking for donations for a breast reduction, as that’s something that can be a health concern.
But for implants?!
Good lord, that’s a screwed-up set of priorities.
Kind of reminds me of when me and another girl at work were enlightening the resident gay guy on how to tell the difference between real and fake ones on men’s magazine covers. On the fake ones, the bra tops are nothing but a frame for beach balls with skin.
I just can’t see why anybody would put themselves through major surgery for something like that, much less post pictures of their tits on the internet asking for “donations to a worthy cause (read: bullshit vanity)”
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Gawwwwwwwwwd some people make me want to ram my head into walls.
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Two points:
1. The analogy was actually quite poignant; she was basically just saying that people are simple and like things that are tangible and that, as such, she understands why people contributed to her cause. Poor children in Africa aren’t a sacred cow. Denouncing her for the analogy is the same sort of mentality that ended with ABC firing Bill Maher.
2. “What man with any dignity whatsoever would allow their wife to send complete strangers erotic video and images in the pursuit of getting breast implants paid for?” I’m gonna have to go right ahead and say it: that is, in my most humble opinion, quite perverse. To think that she must have her husband’s permission to do so is completely chauvinistic.
I’m not trying to incite anything here, but you’ve presented points with which I very much disagree (the one that stands out most is the one quoted above). As well, there’s a running imposition of morals through the piece.
She wanted something. Other people wanted something. They both got what they wanted (or at least what they thought they wanted at the time. Maybe each party regrets it now, but that’s how most of us were conceived. It’s a trade-off. Much like donating food to starving children. They eat. You get a warm fuzzy feeling.
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I like small chests.
a lot.
that reason alone makes me sad over this site.
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It’s sad that this sort of thing doesn’t really surprise me anymore.
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Speaking of open letters, openletters.ca is still one of the greatest websites of all time (even though it hasn’t been updated in well over a year).
I don’t even have time for a discussion of fake tits and the people who love them.
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im clumsy with words.
if i may..
at 15 i had breast reduction surgery.its tortured me ever since.
our government payed for it.i lied to get it.my spine was broken,but fact is,
i couldnt handle being a girl with big breasts.i could barely handle being human.
vanity?..well..
i made me a monster ashamed from my lover probably unable to feed my child.
with compassion my weakness may eventually turn to strenght.
what am i saying?no idea.but we all have reasons to not be as great helpfull as we schould. vanity,others cant handle the curse of sight.
some forget others simply because they are focused on helping themselves.
some are neutral. so on.
in the end,no matter the reason,the result is the same;suffering.
for the very temporary comforts of 1,3 suffer?.something like that.
was this closer to context?.
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Sad.
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Quoting T-Lee:
That’s the thing. Most men, most decent men anyway, will say women should love themselves as they are, and will say THEY love women as they are, imperfections and all.
And most men will also go on to say they love huge fucking boobs. (And who can blame them? We’re products of our environment, and the attention paid to breasts, especially large ones, is astounding.)
So, it’s hard to reconcile. And, yes, women should be secure enough in who they are inside that the fact they don’t measure up externally is inconsequential. Shallowness and vanity and lack of confidence are not appealing traits. But… damn, it’s hard to fight something that’s thrown in your face every day. What woman wouldn’t still rather have it all?
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I agree with you on this one. I have no problem with this woman wanting to get implants but the way that she sold her dignity to pervy old men for the bargain basement price of $8000 is what gets me. What really bothers me though is that instead of going about this the way she did she could have just picked up a few shifts a week at a fast food joint or something. Over three years they would have been paid for and her boobs wouldn’t be posted all over the internet. If you want something that’s completely superfluous then you should get out and work for it, if you can’t afford it than maybe it’s something you shouldn’t be doing.
““Although she admitted she sent out some “naughty” pics and video – which she regrets to this day – Morris insisted most of the men she encountered seemed to be more interested in making a personal connection and helping her out than just getting some racy images.””
So this personal connection… was it made during or after these guys requested, watched then re-watched her “naughty” videos? :)
“Donating” to someone who’s superficial and wants cosmetic surgery that’s not needed or critical who could have worked for it vs. Starving children in Africa who need anything that could possibly be given where it is critical and who face certain death without aid…. oh yes I definitely see where she drew that correlation.
I guess we’ll be seeing her next on buymynewnose.com now because now that she’s got the perfect chest you have to make everything else match up.
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I have to admit, they are nice looking tits though and i’m a chick!!
lol..
(oh can I say “tits” on here)?
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Quoting jnifer:
Hey, how do i edit my post??? Whats going on? I am confused. What do I do?????
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Quoting k-e-t:
Bootiful!!!!!
I realized after I posted my last entry, I’m a hypocrite.. I constantly go on about hating my rack….
And realize, when are we ever happy?
I stand by my words and speak to myself when I say to just love them… it’s hard though when you get back pain.. that’s really my main reason for hating mine.
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Where the hell is the husband in all of this? Instead of taking the stance taken above I would hope he was instead trying to talk her down, making it clear that this isn’t something he wants, etc. which may be why she resorted to doing this… yeah, it is a bit far fetched. :P
There is a part of me that feels sorry for someone that tries to fit an image but I see that as somewhat arrogant of me… I usually step back and let go of it. It is their life after all and I’ve known people that had body issues where modification such as this helped them live in this world… especially among the transgendered population. I personally believe the root issue for the modification wasn’t addressed but they are the people that have to live with themselves for this short span of time that they are alive on this world.
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That is one sad marriage,let’s put the shoe on the other foot for a sec and her husband was on the net showing pics of himself trying to get a dick enlargement would she be all gung ho on that, and I feel for the children they have. Matt you are so right one day that kid will find pics of his mom and he or she will be teased at school, and if it’s a girl they have what kind of message is she sending to her. That it’s okay to sell your body, or degrade yourself to such levels as this. Wow way to be mom.
And what kind souls the men are that wanting a connection with her. Fuck that they just want to get her out with them so they can get some use out of the tits they bought her.
I do in some strange way I have empathy towards her because if you think a pair of tits will make all things great and grand she must have a lot of inner demons to deal with. I don’t know what it is like to have body issues because I personally don’t give a shit what people think about me or if I fit in to what society or the media has deemed what we should all look like. I never had boobs until I was in my early twenties and I now have 38 DD’s and believe me the ole days were way easier when I could toss on a t-shirt and run out the door.
Welll I guess this christmas insted of sending money to Greenpeace or Unicef I know exactly where to send my donation for the good of mankind.
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despite her mixed up priorities, it must be said that at least she didn’t deprive her children of things to get new breasts. at least she let men who objectify women pay for them. i’m not saying i agree with it, and i do believe she caused more problems than fixing of, but it’s smart to take advantage of situations like that.
would i ever do that? no. but that’s because i sure as heck don’t need any help in that department. would i contemplate setting up a site to make it appear that i do, get the money, and then donate it to a worthwhile cause? i think i just did contemplate that…
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So…helping a woman temporarily dodge her own self-esteem issues is comparable to helping starving children? Hmm, well, this may be a rather bold statement (I kid), but I would have to disagree with that. You know…because feeding children is actually a good cause, whereas helping a woman get breast implants actually makes the situation worse for the the women out there who are already unhappy with their bodies and this is the solution that is consistently presented to them. In fact, I would say that this whole “charity” is more like donating to have an African child KILLED for all the good it does. Shame on everyone that’s involved. Shame on the website creators for making small breasts seem like a problem that needs solving, shame on the men who donate for being shallow and being the root of the problem, and shame on the women who buy into this whole thing. I would have rather seen this $8000 go towards getting this woman a therapist to work through her self-esteem issues.
Congratulations Mrs. Morris, you’ve given hope to girls everywhere that they too can achieve true happiness by being the center of attention at the beach. Sure, they’ll now have to wonder if all their future boyfriends are only interested in their breasts, and they’ll lose respect from almost anyone that took their personality and intelligence seriously, but those are just obstacles on the road to success!
There is nothing wrong with small breasts. Big ones catch the eye, but they don’t actually contribute to the overall attractiveness of a woman. I guess I can’t speak for all men. I like small breasts. I like big breasts. I like breasts. However, if women think that men use them as a serious criterion for determining the value of a woman, then they are catering to the wrong population of men. No wonder they have low self-esteem if these are the guys they are trying to impress. It’s not like guys that appreciate small breasts are rare or hard to find. Any time the topic of breasts comes up with friends (which isn’t that common I suppose), there are always multiple people other than myself who think along the same lines: size doesn’t matter. Women need to learn to be happy with themselves. Self-confidence is an aphrodisiac. Small breasts are not a turn off. A women who is constantly criticizing her body however, is.
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Quoting jnifer:
Haha I’m guessing that if Matt is able to show them, then you are most likely able to say it.
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Quoting Nothingman:
A-fucking-men to that. All women are beautiful in their own way.
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Quoting ethan1:
Brilliiant! I can already see my Christmas card in my mind. The cover will have the picture that Matt posted, and it will say:
“Merry Christmas and a Happy New Year! A donation has been made in your name to MyFreeImplants.com!”
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she had to sell part of her soul for those breasts
there will be a day she realizes this and wonders ,was it worth it?
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Regarding her low self esteem…. women who have breast implants are 3x more likely to commit suicide, so it obviously won’t make her feel any ‘happier’
Regarding the website…. I’d like to know who it is that runs this site/came up with the idea. What garbage.
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Quoting Nothingman:
HAHA, you are totally right. Hmmmm, I never thought about it that way!!!
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Quoting Nothingman:
Actually, shame is often the reason for wanting the change along will it having nothing to do with vanity.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Body_dysmorphic_disorder
Keep in mind that the criteria for these types of disorders can often be seen in people to a lesser degree and hence they wouldn’t be diagnosed with the disorder. With the increased ease as well as acceptance with getting this type of body modification it isn’t surprising that those that have it to a lesser degree are opting for this.
I’m in no way advocating that what Morris did is right or a good choice… I’m just saying there is often more to it.
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I’m quite confused as to why people are paying, what was it, over $1000 some of them paid, to get her her implants! Why are these people paying her so much cash?
If they’re doing it for the ‘naughty’ videos, real pornography websites are much cheaper…
If they’re doing it for the ‘human connection,’ web cam chat pornography is also cheaper…
If they’re doing it to make friends, you don’t have to spend money to do that…
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And we wonder why some people’s children end up fucked up.
It’s all about the priorities and, when you have kids, you base decisions on how it will impact them (first & foremost in my world). And the “kids in Africa” thing I can’t even justify with a comment.
Dan’s right…but everytime I think that things have sunk as low as they possibly can, some new idiot proves me wrong.
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Quoting Jon Dehm:
This reminds me of the self-dubbed name of a guy that worked at a Dual Diagnosis Center - “Captain Save a Ho”
IMO it is often a codependency behavior and isn’t primarily if at all about sex… it is about the codependent’s need to try to help the person from real or imagined difficulties.
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An afterthought….
There just shouldn’t be issues that money can fix in the world with people throwing their cash at crap like this. So many worthwhile things they could do with it is they have extra to spare…..WHY?????
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*could do with it IF they have extra
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Quoting someguynamedjoe:
You hit the nail on the head!
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Holy shit… Is that Gene Wilder?
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Quoting o:
I think you were speaking to my earlier post, so I’m going to address this one:
When I spoke to vanity, I was speaking in terms of the implants, not a reduction. Though your post does lead me to wonder if psychological counseling prior to surgery would have helped you or any of the other women who have had some kind of plastic surgery simply to root out the deeper issues.
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nah… most definately Marty Feldman…
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Quoting Robert S.:
As a Psyc student, I’m well aware of Body Dysmorphic Disorder, but that disorder only applies in extreme cases. If we apply it to everyone who displays any great desire to change some aspect of their body, it would apply to 99% of the population and the term would be useless. BDD applies when someone has a distorted view of their body (not just a particular part) as being extremely hideous, and no matter what they do, or how many people tell them otherwise, their opinion does not change. If Mrs. Morris has BDD, which I’m guessing she doesn’t (off course I could always be wrong), then implants will do absolutely nothing for her self-image. Obviously it is difficult to establish where the line between BDD and regular self-consciousness lies, and as a third year undergrad student, I am in no position to judge where that line is, but I personally don’t believe that the majority of women to get breast implants come anywhere near reaching that diagnosis. I know that you’re not saying that she necessarily has that disorder, and I’m sure that (for whatever her reasons were) she was ashamed of her body…otherwise she probably wouldn’t have whored herself (I’m well aware that I am stretching the use of “whoring”, but I stand by it) for the “upgrade”. In the end though, she is ultimately responsible for her actions.
Hell, I know all about being ashamed of my appearance. I’m 5′11″ and weigh 135lbs, which is not so great for a guy (some people get made fun of for being overweight…I sometimes got made fun of for being underweight). I have a concave ribcage, meaning that I have a somewhat bowl-shaped chest (I have more of an excuse to be ashamed at the beach than a girl with small breasts). And in middle school, I had worse acne than anyone else I knew (luckily I don’t have to worry about that one anymore, but that certainly was a shot to the self-esteem at an age where it is really just starting to form). I hate my body, and sure, I wish that it was better, but I don’t fixate on that. I realize that despite my flaws, I’m not that hideous and my life isn’t restricted by my weaknesses. I assume that not all girls out there are shallow and that I’m destined to be alone my whole life. Sure, I don’t get hit on at bars nearly as much as some other guys, but I don’t go looking for surgery just so that I can be the center of attention. I want people to like me for me, not for my well-shaped pecks.
Well, I know I went on a bit of a tangent there, but my point is this: yes, I do feel bad for the pressure that some girls feel for fitting the mold of what they think is beautiful. They do still have to take some responsibility for their actions though and the repercussions that they have on the rest of the population. Why do girls feel like they have the get breast implants? Because other girls went out and got them, and they think that fixed their problem. Both sexes have a responsibility to help the situation. Guys shouldn’t be pressuring girls to enlarge their breasts, and women should realize that the kind of guys that do pressure them are morons that they have no reason to listen to.
Tada! I just solved the problem of poor self-esteem. I think that next I will tackle world hunger (I’m kidding. No insults please).
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ps. How come every time I come here with the intent of saying a couple sentences, I end up with multiple long paragraphs? It really looks like I’m enthusiastic about breasts (then again, who isn’t). That’s enough breasts for one day though. I’m going to bed.
pps. Why no edit?
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oh jesus
If he were alive/real, would he approve the implants?
The majority of comments on this entry are good and based on what decent moral people would do. But the sad thing is most of the people in the world are either too stupid, niave, or self-obscessed to understand the consequences of their actions.
By the way, I thought this article was spot on. But, this is the root of several complex issues in our society that are not even considered serious because they don’t immediately appear to hurt anyone. Anyone who is somewhat experienced and smart can see this shallowness in the world, but honestly, how do we fix it? To complain about it is almost poitless in today’s society, because generally those that already agree will nod while others will just walk on by. We can comment but ultimately commenting will not have a significant effect. We need to do something!
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Whatever happened to freedom of choice?
Shouldn’t it be her business? How do you feel about nose jobs?
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Quoting Nothingman:
I in no way suggested otherwise… hence why I stated they wouldn’t be diagnosed with BDD. Just because someone isn’t diagnosed with BDD doesn’t negate the fact that some people exhibit the same traits to different degrees and with the ease of getting this particular body modification along with it being accepted to a large extent in many societies making it more prevalent for people to give in to these traits. I look at the DSM criteria as a starting point in developing a treatment plan based on previous successful treatment plans for the same criteria and not as a way of categorizing for the sake of categorizing. There are plenty of people that meet some of the criteria but don’t meet the DSM criteria for a specific diagnosis and all this usually means is that the person’s insurance won’t cover them and not that they don’t have tendencies of a specific disorder that if treated could improve the quality of their life.
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Quoting deb:
That fact makes me fucking want to bust out crying, especially in these past few weeks - because I can’t stand to see my sister bust out crying because she’s, yet again, been passed over for a decent roll in the school performance. She’s a healthy young woman, but in one of the latest instances, she spent most of the past month in limbo if she they were going to use her in the student run Kick Line. Even though she’s an accomplished Irish dance and knows how to kick, she’s about 5′2, won’t visit a tanning bed and the muscles she developed as a dancer made her look, you know, HEALTHY! She’s told me the only time the girls will talk to her is if she’s wearing wardrobe purchased at American Eagle.
Yesterday she told me she wants to give up dance and drama altogether.
I can only do what I can (I’m just as insecure as she’ll ever be) to try to convince her that she needs to keep going with what she loves no mater what anybody says.
And then I read stories like this.
The one major difference between myself and my sister I have an over abundance of patience. She’s got a short fuse. I’ve learned to live with the fact that I’ll never be accepted for who I am….but she is so close and wants to expand in her art. All I think I can do at this point is leave her notes on her MySpace and send text messages telling her I love her and no mater what anybody says, she fucking rocks. I don’t know what I’d do if she started asking for implants.
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Alls I can say is I would pay for a reduction. Those greedy little hoochies that have never brest-fed don’t know whats coming. Take what got god gave you and move on. Hows about spending that money on something worthwile instead if a satisfying image in your mirror?!??For fucks sake…….
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great post Matthew. This woman has some serious issues and she is definitely in need of some professioanl help. What a crazy world we live in when people pull shit like this off. You should write a song about her Matt…
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Quoting Adrienne:
actually i was writing it before i read yours.
but yes,it seems like quick fixs for too complex issues.but its far from it.
doctors didnt seem to mind that i had mental troubles.fresh out of hospital still in a center.
in my case vanity was really fear.where most troubles root in.
doctors definatly should hold their share of responsability,as they have made an oath to help those in need and are well aware of that child dying,yet choose to offer a ‘prettier’ reflection instead.theres really nothing pretty about it.
is ignorance inocent?
sometimes it takes a trauma to realise the possible repercutions of our actions.
for me it happend when i realised that i wishd to love might live long enough to be a mother.
for her it might happen when good men look at her with disdain for choosing the mirror instead of others.or when she realises the good that that money couldve done.
we all make mistakes.whats important is how they influence our next choices.
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Quoting Robert R:
Of course it’s her choice and her business; but, as with everything else in life, we are judged by the choices we make.
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Quoting T-Lee:
Mountains are beautiful. Foothills are beautiful. Dunes and mesas and buttes are beautiful. (Oh, wait. Buttes are a whole other topic.) The female human form is just a work of art, period. And like any art, there are people who prefer various types; but if a person doesn’t care for that particular piece, that doesn’t mean it’s not still inherently artistic and beautiful. There will be a connoisseur out there who thinks it’s perfect.
Oh, damn. I totally mixed metaphors, didn’t I? Geography to art appreciation in a single paragraph. I’ll never make it as a writer.
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Quoting Robert S.:
You make a fair point. Even though various disorders have specific criteria for diagnosis, the symptoms themselves always reside somewhere along a continuum of severity. Even though very few people actually fit a BDD diagnosis, more than a few people exhibit behaviors that are symptoms of it.
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maybe she should check this site out….www.MyFreeBrainImplant.com
nothing’s sexier than a chick with a great mind.
the rack is only secondary.
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Hey everyone, while we’re on the topic, I am now accepting donations for a new nose. I don’t like the way the last two turned out and third time’s a charm!
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“If you marry a boob man, you’re goona get fake ones if you’re small. Find out first is he’s fine with the way you look.. ” (quoting T-Lee)
Lesson #1 : You never ever change Yourself for a Man ….
If you do it for Yourself…..fine…..but don’t do it
to get a Man….keep a Man…..or satisfy his Ego….
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Can’t people just be happy with their boobs!?! Mine are a perfect handful and I wouldn’t trade them for anyone elses.
PS. Way to have a giant boob picture as the first thing you see when you click to view this entry… lucky I get to work early and no one was around… that could have been hard to explain..
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Quoting Phaedra:
HAHAHAHAHA best. comment. ever.
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Quoting Robert R:
Honestly, it would’ve been her business if she just went out and had her damn implants done. But when she advertised to the world and solicited for “funding”, she made it everyone’s business. And our freedom of choice means we have every right to comment on her decision.
Emily…it’s sad that sometimes (often) we’re not judged or accepted for our abilities, but rather we’re passed over and rejected because we don’t fit a certain mold that’s based on nothing more than size and colors. Truly sad and tell your sister to hang in there and not give up.
Phaedra….well said!
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Quoting revisited:
I know that wasnt the point of the orginal blog, but i just thought that i would make a comment. I didn’t come to this realization until last year, i used to be one of those girls who thought i was ugly and wanted to anything to make myself beautiful.
But to the point of the original blog, it seems that the IT thing to do in todays society is help people, but the thing is people are not going about it properly. I know so many people who know about Darfur because George Clooney talks about it, the only reason they care is because George Clooney cares. Our society has come to a place where celebrity knows all and it is just quite sad.
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maybe when men (and women) stop contributing to the billion-dollar porn industry that fuels fake fun bags, they can speak about it
if there is a man on this site who has never paid for and pleasured himself over a porn in which the girls had fake tits, please stand up — or better yet, looked at or fondled them himself, not REALLY caring whether they were fake or not
come on … the hypocrisy is stupifying
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I know a player in the NHL, who in a conversation one eveing with some young local guys told them “marry a small boobed girl, then buy her bigger ones later” hmmm considering you are in the NHL with a 5 million dollar contract easily said.
I know another guy who says, ‘boobs? I don’t care what they look loke I’m just happy to be in the room with them, and get to see them naked’
Now if more women could realize the second point, a lot of plastic surgeons would be out of business. thanks to the guys that love us women just the way we are.
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I am guessing her IQ USED to match her bra size ….. charity
pft
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Wow. It’s amazing how things can be taken so much out of context. I never said that donating to my cause was as important or more important than donating to save the African children -
“Obviously, this is not as important as helping starving kids in Africa, but it’s the same basis. They (the men) want to help us out.”
I realize it is NOT as important it is nowhere NEAR as important. It is still - however - a charity of sorts - people donate to you to help your cause - my cause was getting breast implants. I do not have a low self esteem - i actually am pretty confident in myself and in the rest of my body - only thing is I have always wanted is breasts.
Also -
as far as where my husband was - when I DID resort to selling the photos/videos that I was not proud of it was when my marriage was in a state of dissolution - THAN i was feeling low about myself and as a lot of girls do when they’re feeling poor about themselves I sought attention in all the wrong ways. I also said to this reporter that i STOPPED doing those photos and videos. That I stopped doing ANY “risque” photos and that all of the ones I took after that point (when my husband and I decided to get back together) were non nudes - and the most “provocative” of those was probably the sheet photo in the edmonton sun article. It was AFTER this point that I started getting LARGER and MORE donations. And that is why I said, that the guys will respect you more for your friendship than anything else - they’re not on the site looking for pornography they can get that anywhere else on the internet for free - we just talk about everything from our family to our day to day life … my LARGEST donations? as i said to the reporter (you can hear an audio of it on the site as well) were when i did some youtube videos …. funny skits and songs and poems … just goofing off -
http://edmsun.canoe.ca/VideoBeta/?fr_story=7f03d4c0dbd455d339835e8c913baf79725d06eb&rf=bm
http://www.youtube.com/ryleighalyssia
Considering my husband in all of this - obviously when I resorted to selling the photos and videos i was not proud of - we were and had already been on a very bumpy road - he was not happy with me and I was not happy with myself. When I stopped though, and he saw that I had and it said on my profile that I would not do anything else of that nature he began, slowly but surely earning more respect for me (and I for myself). Both of us did a lot of healing this past year and now our marriage and relationship is better than ever.
Considering our children - why bring them into this? I let my daughter know every single day how beautiful she is - I will never let her think you have to have breasts to be beautiful as i don’t think that myself. I find two of the most GORGEOUS women in the world (keira knightley and natalie portman) don’t have large breasts but are SO beautiful! Of the thousands of photos/videos I took yeah there were a handful of bad ones - and yeah i realize those are out there now because in a moment of weakness, i offered them up for next to nothing - but what my children will remember is that i have been here for them day after day since the day they were born - lavishing them with praise and attention and being the best mom i can be (and am continuously working on being a better mom) - not that i got boobs paid for by a bunch of strangers.
I am now (very soon) getting the breast implants hopefully before the spring. I am happy about that - does my whole life revolve around them? no - does my every thought consume them? no - in fact my husband and I have been doing so wonderfully we’re considering renewing our wedding vows so my thoughts have been centered around those and him and our family - i am not in la la land - i am not lost on cloud 9 cause im getting a rack - yes it gives me satisfaction i am proud i acheived this goal (although i am not proud of some of the methods i used to achieve it) - but it is not my world.
I believe there have been a lot of assumptions made here - and things taken out of context and opinions set before you cast judgements - I am not “dumb” I am not a “bitch” i am not a “moron” i am a person with feelings.
Judge not, lest ye be judged.
Sincerely,
Karla-Rae Morris
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Matt:
I am one of the sisters of Mrs. Morris.. and in light of all the media attention this story is getting, I felt the need to defend her.
Unlike the other sites who said such harsh words like she neutured her husband had a fling, & got a boob job, shes a bad role model for her children, or that she prostituted herself out, you took the route of penning a deep and profound message about her quest for inner beauty, and it was the last straw for me..I liked the fact you chose to use imagery to get your point across instead of blatantly throwing her to the lions and trash talking her.. .. You sure can write……
Here are my problems with this whole thing
My sister joined this site, obviously cuz she has some self-image issues, Im sure we all have them… Was I embarrassed about this site? Sure I was, personally I would never ask anyone I didnt know for money.. BUT, people do..
So this site, its not something i would join, but its Not prosititution, and i am appalled that you are using your star power to write about an article that really doesnt merit a forum on your site..
Use your star power to talk about “the starving kids in africa”
speaking of, i agree that comment she made was a stupid thing to say, and if you knew my sister you would know that it was taken out of context, and we all have those “jessica simpson chicken of the sea moments’ so cut the girl some slack..
And note this person, has a family, and feelings, and personally i would like this to all just go away, and would appreciate if you decided the need to further exploit this story, to use some tact out of respect for my family.. We didnt ask for this…
sell albums
not your opinion
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Wake up people. It’s Two Thousand and Eight.
If using sex appeal to sell something is prostitution, then a lot of people in this world are prostituting themselves. Let’s all go march outside the corporate offices of Pepsi and demand they no longer show pretty young ladies in their commercials. Down with Doritos! Down with Maxim. Down with every single corporation on the planet.
Sex appeal is the sole reason this story made the news in the first place. Sex appeal is the sole reason Matt placed a GIANT photo of breasts on this post. Breasts sell. You are all buying into them RIGHT NOW. Do you not see that? Breasts are as good for raising money for implants as they are for getting your program ratings, you blog hits, your newspaper read, etc… eyeballs = ad dollars, which equals paychecks.
This site has been around 3 years and the fascination with breasts has existed for thousands. Nothing is new here. This isn’t “news”, this is ratings. Boobs sell. And you just paid with your attention.
Thanks, please come again.
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Quoting BB:
True, I never meant I liked the idea of someone getting implants for a man, I just know that people do it….